Discernment Counseling
Two focused days of guidance with one of the nation’s leading therapists. Limited to 35 seats.
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Guidance from Lasting
When couples asked for something more intimate and focused for those considering separation and divorce, we felt compelled to create something just for them.
We invite you to a very special, anonymous event focusing on discernment. Across two days, you'll come away with one of three decisions:
Stay in the relationship (keep the status quo)
Move toward separation and divorce
Commit to six months of couples therapy, where separation and divorce are off the table
This two-day event is intended for couples or individuals who are contemplating separation or divorce.
This means at least one of you is feeling uncertain about staying in the marriage and you’re not sure how you want to proceed.
This event is not to work through relationship issues. The goal is for you and your partner to gain clarity on how to move forward.
Whether or not you decide to stay married, know that hope and healing are possible for you and your partner.
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Any questions? Just email retreats@getlasting.com.
Virtual Package:
$199
To make this as accessible as possible, our package is 80% off the average cost of in-person discernment counseling.
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March 19th & 26th:
The Itinerary
All times are EST. If at any point you have to hop out, don’t worry. Everyone will get a recording of each session.
Day One, March 19th
Welcome: 12pm to 12:15pm
Before we start, grab a cup of coffee and meet Lyn Martin, our licensed therapist and your guide for the day.
Session 1, Telling the Story Together: 12:15pm to 1:15pm
In this session, you and your partner will share with each other your stories of what happened in your marriage that led to the point where divorce is on the table.
Lyn will guide you through how to share well and keep your conversation on track together.
Session 2, Leaning Out, Part 1: 1:30pm to 2:30pm
This session is designed for people who are leaning out of the marriage (considering divorce).
During this time, you will explore your ambivalence and whether the marriage is worth saving. You will identify your role in how your relationship has evolved and summarize your reasons for wanting to leave.
Session 3, Leaning In, Part 1: 2:45 to 3:45pm
This session is designed for the people who are leaning into the marriage (desires to stay married).
During this session, you will examine your emotions around the current state of your marriage. You will identify areas to take responsibility for and create a personal plan for change.
Session 4, Sharing Together: 4pm to 5pm
In this session, you and your partner will both come back together to share where you are in the discernment process and anything else you want your partner to know.
You will prepare for this session during your previous individual sessions.
Day Two, March 26th
Session 5, Leaning In, Part 2: 12pm to 1pm
In this session, you will continue to identify and process both your relationship dynamics and your responsibility within the interactions.
You will also finalize a personal plan for change that includes personal issues that will show up again in any future relationships.
Session 6, Leaning Out, Part 2: 1:15pm to 2:15pm
In this session, you will continue to explore your relationship dynamics and how you played a role in the development of your issues.
You will also continue to weigh the decision in front of you of what you want to do next.
Session 7, Sharing Together: 2:30pm to 3:30pm
In this session, you and your partner will come together to share where you are in the process.
This might look like sharing what you’ve learned, taking responsibility for certain actions, and/or sharing your personal plan for change.
And, you will check-in with each other about which of the three options on the table (stay in relationship as it is, move toward divorce, or commit to couples therapy), you are moving toward.
Session 8, Moving Forward: 3:45pm to 4:45pm
In this session, Lyn will walk you and your partner through the three different options on the table.
She will provide information on what each of these processes would look like and what support and guidance is available to you.
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“This was remarkably clarifying.”
-Janice, married 8 years
FAQs
When is this event? This event takes place over 2 days. Session 1 is Saturday, March 19th from 12pm to 5pm EST, and Session 2 is Saturday, March 26th from 12pm to 5pm EST.
Your price: $199 per couple
What will my experience be like? This experience is fully anonymous. Our seasoned therapist will lead the group on Zoom and guide you through reflections, conversations, and decisions. You’ll be able to chat her directly throughout the sessions.
Will I see other couples? You will not see other couples, but you will be able to participate in a group chat with the other couples in the retreat.
Do I have to join with my partner? This retreat is designed with both partners in mind, but you can join with your partner or attend individually.
My partner and I don’t live together. Can we join separately? Yes, you can both join using the same Zoom link.
What if we can’t join these days? Everyone who purchases a ticket will get a recording of each session.
How to Participate: This group session is run on Zoom in order to be as accessible as possible. After payment, you’ll receive an email with a link for both days of the video conference. You’ll need an internet connection and the ability to stream audio and video to participate.
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Any questions? Just email retreats@getlasting.com.
Your Guide
Lyn Martin is one of Lasting’s top clinicians, and her advice has been seen my millions of couples. She’s a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and holds a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology. Her areas of expertise include trauma, sexuality, and family dynamics, and she’s an expert in the process of discernment counseling for couples.
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